How many thank yous is too many?
I just got off the phone with etiquette consultant Jay Remer for a story I’m working on about etiquette and he mentioned his six words that “comprise a civilized society today” —
When speaking of gratitude, he explained that we take too much for granted. “People don’t send thank you notes because they’re not thankful.” Essentially, I interpreted that as people expect things without realizing that someone is going out of their way to do something nice for them.
Anyway, the real point of this post is that I ended the conversation with a “thank you very much,” but then wondered when I was off the phone, “should I send him an email to say thanks? A note, even?”
Similarly, about a month ago a friend send me a thank you note after I had her over for dinner. Should I have sent her an email thanking her for the thank you note?
How many thanks yous is too many thank yous?